It’s one of those things that most people do every day..drive a car and focus on where they are going.
We have a range of tools at our disposal when driving: Satellite navigation, traffic information, parking distance control, distance control, self braking cars, and aids which keep us aware of what’s in our blind spots.
All of these tools are intended to assist us focus on the front windscreen and where we are going.
And, of course, then there’s the rear-vision mirror which tells us where we’ve been (and provide some guidance on what’s coming up behind us).
Where do we place the bulk of our attention when driving?
The windscreen, I hope!
Because that’s where we are going.
And we scan our surroundings, including behind us, to ensure we know what’s going on, and be aware of where we’ve been.
The challenge is keeping the ratio of windscreen and rear-vision mirror in balance.
So, here’s my point.
How often do you find yourself spending WAY too much time in talking about the past? Complaining about people or situations who have crossed you, recounting the same old story of bad luck or ill fortune, remembering that A-grade boofhead you had to endure for way too long. Over and over and over and over again.
So here’s the hint….
STOP IT ALREADY!
Certainly, we must respect the past.
It actually happened. It WAS real. It’s a valuable part of you, it IS your experience, it is useful.
But it is NOT you. And it is NOT your future.
The rear-vision mirror is something to scan, to acknowledge, to learn from. However you can’t live in the past. And you can’t define yourself by what you once did, or never let go of that (positive or negative ) event that once impacted you.
I played cricket. I was a wicket keeper. I retired. I learned a lot. It’s a brilliant memory and I have so many mates. And despite the fact I claim I never dropped a catch, I may have fumbled the odd ball(!). But that was then and now is now.
The windscreen is where we must focus. That’s where we are going. The future is something to look forward to…not something to endure why our past is glorified and missed.
Create tomorrow’s memories today.
They are right in front of you. In the windscreen!