Ever met one of those people who knows everything?
We all have.
How do you feel when you encounter them?
- I’m more focused on how the person makes you feel than their delusional perspective.
- Maybe they do know everything, but I doubt it….
Contrast that to someone who demonstrates they are genuinely curious.
They ask a lot of questions.
They find out about you, and what you know and think.
How do they make you feel?
- Different, right?
- Pretty good I suspect!
So, here’s the deal – in dealing with other people, be curious.
- Treat them with unconditional respect, irrespective of history.
- Ask lots of questions.
- At a personal level about their life, their hobbies, their interests, their ideas.
- And at a professional level about ways to improve the business, the customer, the next big thing.
- Build a 1:1 relationship.
- Encourage them to explore their ideas; empower them to take some risks, to do things that stretch them. And you.
- Allow them to make some mistakes, and have success. Ensure they explore their boundaries, and help you do the same.
- Recognise their differences and allow them to be themselves. Learn from them. Teach them.
It takes some strength of character to be vulnerable; but seeking to learn is actually an implicit example of vulnerability.
It means there’s plenty you don’t know. And you acknowledge it!
And people feel closer to someone who is vulnerable and strong enough to share their vulnerability, right?
A few questions, a curious mindset.